Of
course there are plenty of great guys out there, but I’ve also known some
really bad guys in my time. I wouldn’t be leveling with you if I neglected to
tell you about some guys who have a dark side. So how can you avoid the bad
apples? Watch out for these five types:
1.
The Hit ‘er-and-Quit ‘er
These guys are the ones who just don’t like women, yet they use women as often
as possible. They still want sex, but their need for intimacy and female
companionship ends at
the foot of the bed. They will say virtually anything to get a girl naked and have no conscience about what lies and misrepresentations they tell to get there. They are predators and will move on, even if they like the woman. Watch out for men who try to pressure you into having sex with over-the-top urgency and get aggressive when you say no.
the foot of the bed. They will say virtually anything to get a girl naked and have no conscience about what lies and misrepresentations they tell to get there. They are predators and will move on, even if they like the woman. Watch out for men who try to pressure you into having sex with over-the-top urgency and get aggressive when you say no.
2.
The Kiss-and-Teller
These are the braggarts who are more interested in a trophy for the sole
purpose of having a story to tell. Unlike the previous guy, who may not even
care about his image, these guys can’t wait to parade you around — and then get
away from you, so they can tell their stories. Their only interest is meeting
what they believe are society’s expectations. So they won’t try to get to know
you at all. They just want to show you off and make people think that they have
something, even if they don’t.
3 The Smother Brother
These guys are overwhelmed by a need for control. For example, they might tell
a girlfriend how to dress, or where she is and is not allowed to go. Their
problem is that they can’t deal with uncertainty, so they micromanage the life
out of you and the relationship. At first, it might feel good that they are
really head over heels in love with you and so invested in you. But be patient,
because soon you might find that their interest is not in caring for you, but
in controlling you. Don’t confuse smothering with love.
4.
The Pretender
He is playing a script and he doesn’t care who is playing opposite him. He just
likes his role of romantic lead, which he may eagerly play all the way up to
the altar. But he has no intention of ever following through by sticking around
to do the actual work. Once this guy feels he’s got you, it’s “game over” — now
he has to figure out what to do with you. And that’s either too scary or too
boring a proposition for him to deal with, so he moves on.
5.
The Mama’s Boy
Unemployed and seeking women who are affluent to take care of them emotionally
and financially, mama’s boys are looking to be — you guessed it — mommied.
Instead of viewing relationships as their chance to grow into adulthood, they
look at women as mothers who will feed, clothe and clean up after them. Watch
out for guys who never seem to have any money, so they expect you to pay for
dinner or even ask for loans.
Boy, oh boy, I can put
some faces with each of these five categories! These guys are out there.
Beware.
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